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ADVICE :-)

God created us, human not to live alone but live with companions. Besides your parent and family, we have friends, right? Friends are people that we can rely on besides our family. Sometimes they are almost consider as part as our family. Ever since, we are children, we always play with our friends. We would be giddy and happy playing together. We also share our problems too. Problems that we sometimes are not comfortable to share with our families. That shows how important and valuable friends are. Isn’t it? Thus, here are some advices for everyone that would help you become a great friend.

Steps :

· Be your own best friend first.

Learn how to respect and love yourself. Decide what boundaries are important to you and respect them. Understand what values are important to you, stick by them and seek others who honour those values.

· Be loyal.

Be there with your friend when they need you. Respect them and trust them.

Understand their limits and say no when you need to while still being their friend.

It is the fact that through ups, downs, and disagreements you still seek to work things out and be their friend that truly demonstrates your loyalty.

· Look out for him/her If his best friend or friend falls down, then try and cheer him/her up in any way that you think would help.

· Listen.

Nobody likes a best friend who just talks and talks, but never listens. If you're a chatterbox, it's okay if you're also a good listener. Whenever your best friend says something, listen carefully and say something. Don't just say "yeah" and move on. Don't interrupt or fidget continually while they're talking to you. If they ask for advice, listen carefully and give them the best advice you can. It'll earn you respect and of course, make them come to you more.

· Be trustworthy.

If they tell you a secret, keep it, never ever, ever, tell someone a secret your friend wanted you to keep. Don't even leak it out to someone you know you can trust. A secret is a secret. Don't gossip about your best friend, don't say anything that might turn into a rumour, and don't do things that you know would upset them.

· Stick up for them.

Sitting and watching your best friend get picked on or teased is definitely not good. If you’re best friend is getting seriously bullied and you're scared you'll get hurt if you get involved, get help from a teacher or parents. If you can stick up for them without getting harmed yourself, make sure you do so. Sometimes you can feel totally better after being picked on when a friend tells everyone else to shut up and clear off.

· Spend time together.

Hang out on the weekends or plan activities together every now and then, do some homework together, and chat during break at school. You don't have to live in each others' pockets, but make sure you spend some quality time together with your best friend to make the friendship grow and become stronger.

· Be yourself. You are who you are, and your best friend will accept that.

Being "fake" could lead you to losing your best friend. Being yourself around someone is part of what makes you guys best friends. Be best friends with someone who you know you can be yourself around, because it isn't worth it trying to be someone you're not so you can be closer to someone. Don't hold things in either, so if you feel uncomfortable or have hard feelings against your best friend, talk about it with them. Make things comfortable between you two, and you'll both go through thick and thin together.

· Care for your best friend.

If they're away from home, send them cards to show that you care. If they're sick, call them and ask how they are doing or visit them. Best friends care for each other. Show them you appreciate their presence in your life. Write them notes to show that you care and are thankful for them, and ask about their lives. Share your own stories, but make sure you have time for them.

· Avoid Expectations.

If you assume what best friends' roles are, you will get disappointed and frustrated. Best friends are one of the most valuable friends you have, but they cannot help or support you in every aspect of your life. Do not expect them to always be there, or expect them to say the thing you want to hear. If there are expectations your Best friends need to reach, that will only leave you in a disappointing defeat. Be nice, do not email them saying they are a liar or you won't feel so good.

· Share laughs.

There is nothing like laughing and smiling to bring people together. Besides, when they're really friends, you guys can laugh at the dumbest and funniest stuff.

· You may find it hard and impossible to keep your best friend happy.

All you have to do really is make sure you can both trust each other with everything and you don't keep secrets. You will go through rough patches but everyone does at some stage in their lives. Just remember though, in order for them to tell you things you do have to tell them things too, even if it's nothing big. Being a best friend means you talk about everything together and you have so much in common. Some best friends do everything together, they have fun and they can be on the phone for hours just talking about their day they have had. You also need to make sure that they know you are always there for them, whenever they need you and that they feel comfortable talking to you about any problems they have. Bear in mind though that sometimes you will have to give the some space so that they can have time alone and think things through. Being a best friend you have to understand them and maybe sometimes or most of the time ask them for advice. You should never keep anything back from them either, even if you think that they will get hurt by it.

· If you feel like you are drifting apart a little then think about doing something

together one day.

Sometimes you might think it's hard but it will get easier, you just have to know what you’re doing.

· If your best friend is upset, ask them what’s wrong.

They might not tell you straight away but they will in the end. You just have to comfort them and let them know that you are there no matter what. Just trying to be a good best friend shows them how much you really care. Just remember to help them when they need it. Lending a helping hand to your best friend really doesn't cost much. In the end of the day, they would soon do it all for you.

Warnings

• Having a best friend can be hard. And chances are you may end up fighting or drifting apart. If this happens don't sulk about it. Just move on.
• This will take time and effort. Be ready to put your best, most sincere foot forward.
• Don't ever take someone's side over your best friend... hence she is your best friend for a reason.. would she lie to you?
• He or she may want to spend time with other friends or possibly a boyfriend or girlfriend, if they have to cancel plans with you, don't worry make other plans with other people and let them know your okay with it. But be sure to set new plans for another time when you know they will be able to.
• The person you're trying to impress may not want to be your friend. If this is the case don't get too close to them, move on and try becoming friends with someone who respects your values!
• Listen to your best friend sometimes they can be right about other people who aren't your real friends.
• Here's a tip if you want to say something about your best friend but don't know if it's considered gossiping or not: Think, is this something you would want your best friend knowing that you said? If the answer is no, then DO NOT say it. It probably is gossip and who knows, it really might get back to her in the end.